Thursday, April 16, 2015

Rant Number 1,345,897,509

Are you ready to read a rant?

Okay here goes and it is very simple: if you RSVP "yes" for an event ... your ass better show up! 
A couple weeks ago I threw a baby shower for a good friend of mine. I worried about everything: food, theme, venue, games, giveaways, gifts, invitees -etc. 
I settled on a plated brunch, blue and green theme and ordered little candles that were personalized with mom-to-be's name and baby shower date. 
Before I get into my rant I will let you know that the baby shower went off great! I think the mom-to-be was very pleased and the guests that were there were happy they made it. 
A month before the actual event I sent out an Evite to about 15 to 20 of the guest of honor's friends. In the end about 15 people RSVPed that they would be there. 
Because this was a plated brunch I had to provide the restaurant with a head count of how many people would be there for the party. 15 people RSVPed and I was worried that some of them would bring extra guest with them - but I was so wrong - the opposite ended up happening: literally half of the people that RSVPed did not show up!!! And I won't mention the two people that showed up over a hour late.
How freaking rude is that? 
Is that how you treat your friend by not showing up to her baby shower? 
Is that how you treat people to invite to an event? 
What makes it worse is only one person contacted me to let me know they weren't coming and that was 30 minutes before the brunch started (still bad).
I don't think I can even express how much I was fuming at the event. What makes it worse is I had to pay for every single person that did not show up. It gets my blood boiling just thinking about it now! I could've used that money for soo many other things: diapers, wet wipes, margaritas, water bill, ant spray - ANYTHING!
Afterwords a few people contacted the guest of honor with why they didn't make it and the excuses range from not having a babysitter to someone saying they weren't reminded that the event was happening. I get not having a babysitter. Fine. But saying that you didn't get a reminder to an event that you RSVPed for is bullshit!
Ugh. At the end of the day if you're going to RSVP yes to something then show up! Consider the guest of honor and the person that's hosting the event. If you're unsure as if you are able to show up to the event don't RSVP - especially if it's a pay-per-plate type of event.
I'm still mad.
Do you agree that this is bullshit or am I being petty?


  1. Ugh. That's the rudest. Unless there's some kind of major emergency, if you RSVP, you show up!!

  2. Oh I agree--that is SUPER rude!!! You know for my bridal shower several people didn't show or came up with last minute excuses for why they couldn't come. And then the one SUPER rude person (drama bride) came over an hour late too. I think that was to be intentionally rude, especially since she lived in the same complex and literally had to WALK over. I'd have been pissed too, especially if you paid for each of those people to be there and then basically had to "eat" that money.
    I'm glad that it went well even though the rude people didn't come. I'm sorry they ruined it for you!

  3. I would be very upset too. That was tremendously rude for the ladies to not show up. Sorry that happened.

  4. I totally get it! I can't even count the number of events I've gone to where this same "non showing up after you RSVP" business has happened. It is so rude - ESPECIALLY for a catered event - and something so special and significant as a baby shower.

    Tanya Patrice

  5. People are very rude anymore. Manners are just gone with the wind. I have purchased two wedding gifts in the last few years and a graduation gift to not even get a thank you card. And one of those weddings was expensive for us because we flew out to the place, rented a $200 tux the groom had to have and bought a gift. Rude everywhere anymore.